How I Came to Worship Women: Part 2

The positive of our Millennial "zeal" is that we are BUCKING the old systems that don't work for us.  I believe this process of trial and error will take at least until the end of this century to truly settle in, where there isn't some new, upsetting, offending idea every week, everyday!

We are bucking ideas like the picture above (as much as that has been the best my experience in a loving relationship).  Modern me, for the most part, believe that women deserve equal respect in society.  The problem that I see is that men are all too willing to reject ALL of the old definitions of what it means to be a man sometimes, because of how badly we've been let down by our male "role-models" throughout our lives.

For most young men, our role models came through music, calling women "bitches" and "hoes" in rap or screaming out emo confessions of a love so "strong" in can be suicidal. These are contradictory and confusing notions.  Women have not had it any easier with their programming of becoming "complete" in a relationship, but simultaneously being "independent women".  Our fake culture is definitely to blame, marketing that our parents had never experienced on such a sophisticated level; they were the "beta test".

HOW I LEARNED TO BE A "MAN" 

I grew up believing that my mother and father had an "ideal" relationship.  As I grew into puberty, into adulthood, I began to see the discrepancies, the differences between my imaginary perceptions of the "perfect" parents and what really was.  My father left our family when I was a teenager, and I had to come to accept that although he did the best he could with the tools he was given, he'd learned how to abandon from his father.  I was lucky enough to have a father all the way into my teens, but in the end, I realized that he'd stayed for so long to prove a point.  He hadn't had his biological father grow up with him and as a result, did have an "identity" as a man.  My grandfather was a pimp at one time (a real pimp), and from what my father knew of him molded his "Quasimodo" male identity and he'd limped on ever since.  

I was raised by a "macho-man" who increased the strain in his own life by continuously trying to prove it. In the process, he smothered my mother, and didn't allow her to bloom like the flower she was.  Long story short, I am a man now. I have my own family and my own partner.  Nothing has been more infuriating that watching myself (genetically/psychologically) re-enact the scenes my father dealt with in his struggle for "manhood".  

Then one day I said, "Fuck it." Not because I had given up, but because I had GIVEN IN. I collapsed into the love that I was witnessing unfolding before myself everyday, from my kids, from my woman.  That ever unfolding love taught me that Being a man isn't about being in control, it is about riding the waves of uncertainty and learning to be reborn everyday, being better everyday.

EMBRACING BIOLOGY

The human biology, formed over millennia, is perhaps the most miraculous thing I've experienced. We see the importance of the X-Chromosone (female) to cognitive abilities and higher intelligence HERE. We also can see the impact that a relationship (especially one that involves intercourse) can have on the female biology HERE. However, the most amazing aspect of WOMAN (or how my hippy friends spell it Womb-man) is the ability to give birth, to grow something from nothing and create all that the life form needs to survive on FROM THE INSIDE-OUT!!

I watched my children be born, naturally, vaginally.  Yeah, it can be gross sometimes, but that is the carry over from our ancestors. It is what makes us human, connected to the earth.  The fluids that the baby travels through in the birth canal and out of the vagina, coat him/her in a plethora of healthy bacteria, protecting the baby from illness.  The mother's milk is filled with nutrients that boost the immune system and increase the child's brain size many times over! The act of nursing, breast-feeding creates so many neuronal connections that will be beneficial for the child over the course of their lifetimes!!

WOMEN ARE GODDESSES TO BE WORSHIPED! DESIGNED AND BUILT BY NATURE TO GIVE LOVE INDISCRIMINATELY!

Now before you think I've gone off the deep end, let me be perfectly clear.  The Japanese, in their religion of Shinto worship nature. The Taoists of China worship the changes of nature and the patterns that influence man.  Many of the numerous Native American tribes of North and South America understood the rhythms of nature, their importance. Many African tribes, the Dogon are of note, studied the stars through astronomy to make sense of their place in the cosmos. THEY ALL WORSHIPPED NATURE, but I assure you, that did not mean that they fell to their knees and started kissing the ground when a wild bear or lion or whatever flew out of the bush trying to kill them.

I worship the IDEA of WOMAN, the feminine energy, just as I worship my own (masculine).  When we give praise to the gifts given to us by...WHATEVER, we come closer to knowing the truth of ourselves.  I'm not saying fall over and grovel every time some Basic Bitch walks by. What I am saying is we should all worship her potential.

To worship woman is to worship ourselves, our own divinity, because there is not one man on this planet that did not come from one. So in essence, the male-feminists are right (to an extent). A woman is something to be adored. However, in our plastic culture of capitalist marketing, men have the smallest slice of the pie. Women account for 85% of retail sales. This could be the reason why men (and their importance) has been so marginalized as of late, in the media. They aren't seen as important to the money hungry corporate marketeers.  

We must get back to the balance of things. Men need to stand up and be "MEN" finding their own definitions that complete the biological circuit, finding bliss in the ever expanding journey of the human race. And Women need to stand up and be "WOMEN" instead of pawns in a marketing scheme, consistently triggered by the phrase "War on Women", barely recovered from the PTSD of the past century (I GET IT). 

In the end, although I have my critiques of both genders, I am a true believer in the power of P***Y!

 We will overcome the bulls*** together. 

 You guys are nothing but pure magic....

 

How I Came to Worship Women: Part 1

Whatever the definition of a "Real Woman", we all have our idea of what our ideal one may be. Women would like to envision themselves, strong, bold and unimpeded by the chains set by society. Men (as is seen in the fascination with Ronda Rousey and many other bada** females in today's world) would love to have a woman that can take control and lead the way. Unfortunately, for many"men" this is a fantasy that can only be lived in the space between their ears. 

WARNING!! I am a firm believer in bad news first, then the good news. Bare with me. It gets better in part 2.

WHY ARE MEN NO LONGER MEN? 

We live in a society of immediacy, of "gimme" and "gimme now" or "gimme faster".  I don't know about everyone else, but I have taken a look at the apparent differences between my generation of men and that of my father's, his father's.  For those not held hostage by the label "millennial", they grew up in a different world. If my father were to take a time machine from his childhood in the 60's and 70's to modern day, he would be astonished, shocked, probably a little scared, and very much so out of place.  

Our society is still filtered with the definitions of the past to describe who we are in the present as we march ceaselessly into the future.  Men are still held to the standards of the perfect man, the John Wayne type, if not to women, then in their own mind's.  When our father's told us "Be a man.", this is what we had imagined. This is what we had imagined our fathers to be.  Add on top of this the hyper masculinity of our biggest action heroes of the 80's and 90's and we are completely out of our league already when it comes to any female in our own psyche.  This is, in my belief, the cause of such male emasculation in our society- the desire to live up to the fallacy of "MANHOOD". 

We males have been pumped with so much testosterone action cartoons in our youth while in school we had to sit calmly, play nicely, and not be aggressive.  This is very confusing.  I look at my childhood through to my high school days and can only imagine how screwed up our boys are now that politically correct rhetoric has infiltrated the public schooling system. 

My point in saying all this is: when you see a guy who is timid, but is obviously infatuated with a female, but is the nice guy, but still has male sexual urges, it is most likely his SUPED-UP/CALM DOWN programming from childhood sending him conflicting messages about how to engage in a serious relationship.  I have seen guys go for years without a girlfriend simply because they don't know how to relate. The guys that fight or reject their programming either become calloused or complete jerks. 

THE MALE "FEMINIST"

WARNING!!! This is not to put anyone down or to discredit their true commitment, only an observation of what I have witnessed in the behavior of many of my friends and associates, peers, so on..etc    

The male-feminist is the ultimate culmination of the programming that we as males have undergone throughout our childhood.   In essence, I believe that the resulting male-feminist has been trained from early childhood to yield over to the authority of a woman.  In elementary school you were with a woman for 8 hours a day who told you how to play, talk, read, write, and so on.  In high school, the odds of you having more male teachers increased, but we all know that education is a primarily female dominated profession (nothing wrong with that).  Yet we must take a real look at how our society has changed in the last  60 years.  

In my father's day, a young single woman in the community was not as common.  The single-parent family was not common place.  The role of the woman (no matter how archaic it may have been) was clearly laid out.  As we move forward in time, the role of the woman in society underwent radical changes and freedom that had little to do with "voting" or "wearing a bra" had been found.  Women had started and continue to gain more and more respect in the society (as they should).  As we know, however, with change comes challenge and although there have been exciting progressions, the adjustments to these have "rocked the boat" for families.  

When my father was in school, as a boy, only one parent needed to work. This means, no matter how many hours you were stuck in a classroom with the teacher, you could come home and KNOW who your parent was.  Embarrassing to say the least, however I know I'm not the only one- I have called my teacher "Mom" on more than one occasion.  I caught myself (even as a child) and though, "Wow! I'm spending way too much time with this person." 

The male feminist lives in a society in which he may have been disconnected from his mother (she may have had to work), estranged from his father (who also had to work) who may not have had the time to "teach" him how to be a man. So where do most of our role models come from? Simple answer: Television. We (millennials) are a generation raised on the tube.  Male feminists exist in a Disney fantasy (as many of us do) where if we do not have the compliance or acceptance of the female, somehow we have failed. Compare this to the "heroes" of the 50's, 60's, 70's that couldn't care less about the opinions of the "love interest" or any other woman who may have had more than two lines in a scene. 

This is what brings me to my next point.  The generation of Millennials is that of rebellion. We are the "rebels without a cause", all too often given one based on principles that we firmly believe but with political ramifications most rarely understand (occupy wallstreet is a good example).  We aspire to be the care-free hippies of old but with the "shared responsibility" slogans of a revised Marxism.  We are indeed confused.